Making the Most of Your Time Together

Making the Most of Your Time Together

by Certified Relationship Specialist, Lori Ann Davis

In a relationship, it is crucial to let your partner know how much they mean to you and that you are thinking of them.  Even in good relationships, we can be a little insecure and desire that reassurance. It is important to let your partner know throughout the day in different ways that you would choose them again and again.  When you make your relationship a daily priority, your partner will feel loved every day.  When they feel loved, they will show you love more often as well.  It is a win/win situation for you both.  You will increase your emotional and physical connection leading to a more satisfying and passionate relationship.  In this article I will discuss ideas for connecting throughout the day in order to feel more connected. 

Connecting throughout the day doesn’t have to take a lot of time or even energy but it can make a big difference in the overall health and happiness of your relationship.  Even brief positive exchanges help to deepen a couple’s emotional connection.  It can be something as simple as a smile, a kind word, a flirty text, a passing touch, or saying, “I love you.” Small gestures cultivate a feeling of closeness, filling up your emotional bank account.

Feeling more emotionally connected leads to greater feelings of romance and passion, keeping the spark alive in your relationship.  Make it a priority to find ways to connect with your partner in small ways throughout the day and receive their efforts in return.  Connecting and engaging with your partner builds love, trust, and intimacy that is vital to your relationship.  It is also fun and enjoyable, so why not try it?

We will explore ways to build a ritual of connection that will fit into any busy lifestyle.  Now is the time to add some fun and playfulness back into your relationship.  When was the last time you flirted with your partner?  It is time to go back to the beginning of your relationship when flirting was the norm and you appreciated all the small things your partner did for you.  This can be a simple and easy process, so let’s get started.

Texting

One of the easiest ways to add more connection to your day is by using modern technology.  How about sending a text message randomly throughout the day telling him/her how much you them, how much they mean to you, or that you are thinking of them?  You might send a text at lunch that simply says, “I love you” or maybe one that says, “I can’t wait to get home and spend the evening with you.” You could send a text right after you leave the house that says, “I miss you already.” Small texts sent on a regular basis are a great way of staying connected throughout the day.

Daily call

Another idea is to call your partner on the way home from work. You can use this time to check in and ask if you need to do anything for them on the way home. Talk about business items so when you see each other you can focus more on relaxing or having fun.  This is the perfect time to allow your partner to talk about their day or to tell your partner all about your day.  This idea would work well for busy couples who have a longer commute to work and spend a good deal of time in the car.  Why not use some of the time to connect?

Reconnect at the end of the day

Once you are home, find time to give your partner your full attention.  If you haven’t asked about their day, now is the time to do so, and to really listen to the answer.  Turn off all devices and cuddle on the coach holding hands while you share with each other.  Let your partner know how happy you are to be together. Use this time to share what is going on in your life.  Couples can feel disconnected when they keep problems or issues to themselves. Your partner is there to support you so talk to them and allow them to be helpful.  Take time to snuggle in bed together before going to sleep.  Ending your day feeling emotionally close will help you not only stay connected but will also add more passion to your physical relationship.

Flirt

In the beginning of relationships, people tend to do a lot more flirting.  It is time to go back to that. You can flirt in person, leave notes, or flirt in your daily texts. Make it fun and enjoyable.  Tell your partner how nice they look in the morning before you part for work.  Let them know you are looking forward to spending time together that evening.  Send a text that says, “I am counting the hours until I see you again.” You can also send flirty memes to your partner.  When was the last time you winked at your partner or gave them a quick kiss as you pass by?  If your partner is appreciative of it, send sexy texts or add some teasing to your flirting for fun.

Gratitude

This is another area that is often overlooked as relationships progress.  Spend time daily letting your partner know that you appreciate them and what they do for you and for your family.  Don’t forget to say, “thank you.”  Tell them why they are a great partner.  Show gratitude for the little things they do on a daily basis.  It will make them feel loved, appreciated, and recognized.  Tell your partner you are proud of them and let them know why.  Compliment them not only on their looks but also on their character?  Once you begin to notice and share gratitude, you will notice even more to be grateful for.

I hope this has given you some tips to help you make the most of your time together.  This is just a beginning so take some time and brainstorm ideas of your own.  Have fun with it. 

Lori is a Certified Relationship Specialist – Speaker- Author

Lori has a unique and passionate approach to love and relationships and believes that everyone deserves and can have the relationship of their dreams. Her mission is to provide you with the skills you need to have the unstoppable relationship you deserve.

She a master’s degree in clinical psychology with over 30 years’ experience empowering individuals and couples to live richer, happier lives. She provides relationship coaching to people throughout the world. Her practice spans the spectrum from dating and singles to working through divorce to renewing long-term marriages.

She is the author of Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships: How to Find, Keep and Renew Love and Passion in Your Life, 365 Ways to Ignite Her Love, A Couples Love Journal, and contributing author of Ready, Set, Date.

She is also one of the coaches on the Radical Dating Documentary Show, www.Radical-dating.com  

Information about all of Lori’s coaching services, other products, blogs, and events can be found at www.lorianndavis.com.

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