A New Year, A New Beginning?

Or, The Beginning of the End?

Now, now, don’t be hasty.  You don’t know where I am going with this yet!

Do you honor the tradition of resolution declaration at the New Year?  Do those resolutions always manifest?

We all have our own natural cycles of reflection, dreaming & intention-setting, integration, and celebration.  This doesn’t mean that they line up with the calendar.   After all, calendars are linear and we use linear thinking and tools such as clocks and calendars to measure time passing and day tracking, but we are quantum beings in a quantum universe.  (Read more about this in a previous blog here.) So a new year on the calendar doesn’t necessarily mean a new beginning of anything other than the measurement beginning again!

The calendar, the calendar, what happened to the calendar?

In fact, the number of resolutions that come to fruition vs. resolutions declared are minimal.  I believe it is because the natural rhythm of the declarer isn’t aligned with the timing of the calendar flip.   And, IT’S OK!

[This brings to mind a song, “Turn, Turn, Turn (to everything there is a season)” performed by The Byrds, that speaks beautifully to this.]

If you haven’t made a resolution or found your mantra or word of the year yet, do you find yourself feeling behind the 8-ball because it seems like the rest of the world has?

There is nothing wrong with you.  Aligning with your own cycle and moving to your own rhythm is imperative to your own personal & spiritual growth.  And guess what?  It is in your own perfect timing and perfectly imperfect that it isn’t when the calendar says so.

Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy celebrating the new year.  As it is a new year I understand where the goal-setting and resolution declaring and the need to get back on track with routine and a healthy diet after the decadence the holidays bring to us.

The calendar flip doesn’t mean that we are all at the ‘new beginning’ phase.  Even in business, the fiscal year doesn’t even line-up with the calendar flip, so why should your internal year?

For some, they consider their birthday the beginning of their new year.  And this is a beautiful way to honor and celebrate the passing of another year with reflection, gratitude and intention-setting.  I have myself in the recent years taken on this self-honoring and celebration, but for me and my natural cycle and rhythm, I am more aligned with the seasons.

Winter is a time for reflection, acknowledgement, discernment, gratitude and planning with Intention.

Ahh.  There it is:  “Planning with Intention.”

Yes.  When I arrive at this particular stage of ‘the season’, that is where the new beginning awaits me.

Perhaps the resolution declaring is the guidance for the reflection and not, necessarily the new beginning?

What do you think?  I challenge you to really reflect-is each calendar flip, or new year, REALLY a new beginning for you?

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10 Responses

  1. Barb Parcells

    You make a really great point. I don’t know about the rest of the country, but who wants to make a resolution to make a major change in your life when, as the song goes, “the weather outside is frightful!” All those cold, grey days do not motivate us to get up early to go to the gym, or make ourselves a wholesome meal. If we wait until the spring, however, the season of new growth and new beginnings, now we have the perfect season for intentions and resolutions.

    • Crystal Cockerham

      Barb I giggled aloud as I read your post. It is as if you were pulling the words straight out of me. Agree, agree, agree! And, wait for it, agree with the Spring being the perfect season of new growth and beginnings. A woman who echos my own heart…

  2. Jill Celeste

    YES! Thank you for the reminder that the calendar is one thing – and our guidance is another. I did find a great 2018 word for me “release” – and with that comes the release of calendar-ish expectations. Great post!

    • Crystal Cockerham

      You go girl! Outside expectations don’t matter if they aren’t in tune with you; your needs, wants and desires.

  3. Suzie Cheel

    I think new beginnings can come at any time, especially when you listen to your heart. This year I haven’t done the regular word for the year post, set goals etc. I am working on flowing softly into 2018. Ues to guidance and reflection, thank you xxoo

    • Crystal Cockerham

      Love it Suzie. I am honoring myself by banishing the feeling of ‘being behind’. I am not behind, I am exactly where I am supposed to be. 🙂

  4. Meghan Humlie

    I am aware that I have different calendars and New Years going on simultaneously. Cultural, religious, annual such as birthdate and that they all are arbitrary. I used to have a monthly cycle when I had periods, but no more. I believe I becoming more attuned to seasons currently Winter in the Northern Hemisphere rather than paper calendars. When I am near the ocean, I am aware of tides.

    • Crystal Cockerham

      Beautifully In tune Meghan! Thank you for sharing.

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